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Happy Birthday, Mommy

Latest entry by UsernameOptional, June 27, 20251 yr

She would have been 92 today.

I have known so many people who have lost a parent, some both parents. Some lost a parent at very young ages. My S/O lost both of her parents before she was graduated from university. My heart used to ache for her, knowing that even being older than her, I still had both my parents. I couldn't image what it would be like to lose one parent so young, let alone both!

In the early 2000s, suddenly and unexpectedly, my Mum lost her husband of 46 years. I'm not sure I really had time to take that lose in and fully grieve because I came here to help my Mum take care of everything. Apparently, as my brother would observe and point out 23 years later, I was running on "auto pilot." I think the loss of my Dad finally hit me when I came back later that year for my vacation, and I brought my little dog with me. She was so happy to see my Mum. And of course after she finished with all the wags and kisses and greetings for my Mum, she was ready for the same with my Dad - but she couldn't find him. She ran all thru the house looking for him.

I became concerned that my dog looking for my Dad may upset my Mum. But instead, she went into the bedroom, me and my dog in tow, and she knelt down in front of my Dad's chest of drawers. She pulled the bottom drawer open - my little dog standing there next to her. My Mum took out a plastic zip-lock bag and opened it. It was the last shirt my Dad had been wearing before he died. She held the bag in front of my little dog, who prompty stuck her nose in it to sniff around. And then she looked up at my Mum, as if she understood. I think that was the moment the finality and reality of my Dad being gone hit me.

Now, my Mum is gone. She went, hopefully peacefully, in her own home, me and my brother with her. After hospice left and after our Mum was taken away, the house was suddenly, eerily silent. And while we were heart-broken, we were not over-come with gut-wrenching grief as we often expressed to each other would happen if we lost our Mum. We took her passing rather well, and in some ways considered it a blessing because our Mum had several health issues and her quality of life had begun slipping away at a fairly fast pace. I dare say had she lived another year or so, she would have been quite miserable. So I guess you could say that to some small degree, we were relieved, and her passing was a little easier to bear knowing what she had been going thru, and that things would only get worse.

So again, I found myself having to take care of things around here. One of those things was to turn in the caption phone my Mum had. I also figured I would terminate her landline service since the phone would be gone. I made myself a reminder on my phone's calendar so I wouldn't forget to call both providers. And so, one evening, about a month later, sitting here at my computer, my phone sounded. The ringtone, a ship's horn, told me a scheduled task had come up. I thought to myself, "what the hell?" At the moment, all I could think was, "I've already paid that bill, and it's too early for the notification for the other bill."

I picked up my phone, swiped down and saw what the notification was. Auto pilot must have been temporarily off, and that notification hit me. It hit me by surprise, and it hit me hard. My Mum is gone.

The next day I called to terminate phone service and called to find out how to return the caption phone. Then, I took my Mum's calendar from the wall, and wrote, "Happy Birthday, Mommy," in the square for today, then hung the calendar back up.

I miss my Mum.

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Blackangel Happenings

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I’m Autistic

Latest entry by Blackangel, March 19, 20251 yr

I’ve debated on posting this or not for about a year now, and finally figured, what the heck, why not?

So last March (2024) I found a place in St Louis that tests adults. So I scheduled an appointment and went in. The woman evaluating me ran me through a couple tests to get a read. We were together for about an hour or hour and a half. She made sure that I knew there were neither right nor wrong answers to anything that we went over. So while I was nervous I just went in honest and hoped that whatever happened helped me to answer a lot of questions.

About a week later I heard back. Going by the DSM5 scale, I am autistic. Apparently, it was obvious to a lot of people that I knew. I had always known that I’m socially awkward, but hadn’t really thought that autism was the lead up to that.

Since finding out, my whole world is seemingly different. Black is white, up is down, right is left, you get the idea. At least that’s how it was. I’m noticing things about myself that I hadn’t picked up on before. One of the questions it answered is why do I get so overwhelmed so easily, and why do I react so emotionally to every little thing.

While it’s not surprising, it is still an adjustment. I have a friend who is also autistic, and she has really been a great help. But I have known she is autistic since we met. It was never a secret between us. She also knows things about me that little to no one else knows.

I’m posting this for anyone struggling with the “What if’s?” wondering if they might be. Like I said it’s an adjustment, but don’t let it take over your life if you find out you are autistic. It’s just another part of what makes you who you are. We are still people. People who deserve decency and civility. We’re neither superior nor inferior to anyone. We’re still who we are, we just know a little more about ourselves now. I’m always available if anyone wants to talk. Sometimes it helps to talk with someone who knows and understands your struggles. Which is why I wanted to post this.

But it’s nothing that should change anything. Just don’t let it jack up everything like I did. The moon isn’t made of green cheese. Wrestling still isn’t real. And monkeys are not plotting to take humans down….

….at least I don’t think they are.

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More of my Flowing thoughts

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So I tend to blog on Wordpress on a Monday, if you want to kind of catch up with my brain from the start than that is the place to go: (https://wordpress.com/pages/ironicissues.wordpress.com)

For those who just do not have the time!

I am Dee, I live in a very rural part of Scotland, I started questioning my gender after going to a Halloween D&D party last year as a female character and realising at the end of the night that I did not want to take the costume off! Cue lots of searching and questioning and eventually I understood that I do not fit with the description of cis-gender. I do not emotionally or socially identify with the gender I was assigned at birth, so I concluded that I must be Trans - although I am still asking questions as I try and decide what to do with the information!
Life Update

Latest entry by ScottishDeeDee, October 24, 20241 yr

Well I did it.

I was offered a paid sabbatical from work to transition for the sake of my mental health and I took it. I had finally reached the point of knowing that if I stayed where I was much longer I may never make it.

I was worried that it was just a way for them to shunt me out quietly as there was no guarantee of a position afterwards, which turned out to be a valid concern - but it was 100% worth it.

The Pros:

I am now living full time as myself - and it is awesome!

Name, Passport, Drivers licence, education certificates, bank, rental agreements, NHS number, utility bills - you name it they are all in my name - the only thing I cant change is my pension paperwork because I need a gender recognition certificate, and I am saving up the paperwork evidence to get that next summer. Then I can sort out that and my pension.

Smiling is easier, laughing is now natural, the friends I have kept and the people I have met are fantastic.

No more stressing over whether or not the door will ring or if someone will see me, I can put the recycling out, pop to the shops, go for coffee, walk the dog and just exist without worrying about how I look, or what I say.

I took a chance last year to dip into the online dating pool, the Pan label fit best and so I wasn't sure who I wanted to date, but have found myself falling head over heels for someone.

I opened up a new FB account and migrated only those who I knew were allies or would be fine and can share pictures and conversations and all the things I was so careful not to do before.

The Cons:

I am unemployed and looking for work - getting rejected for the vocation I have trained and qualified for with, "thanks but we are going with someone we feel is more compatible" hurts.

Made worse by jumping through hoops to get Job Seekers Allowance and have to prove how destitute I am, also being advised to ignore the degree I worked for years for and just apply for entry level jobs like I did when I left school feels like a kick in the teeth.

Switching health boards did not go smoothly, I was transferred to the wrong clinic, which took 6 months to find out, then, when they sent me to the right clinic I was told it will be 3 years before someone can see me. So my electrolysis, my prescription wigs have all stopped - thankfully my E Patches are supplied via GP Prescription so that has carried on, but now if I move for work I will get stuck in the loop of going to the bottom of the transfer lists to be seen. At this rate I may never get to surgery.

Shaving is still the bane of my existence.

My kids haven't quite navigated the dad/mum/parent problem yet - we use parent to describe my relationship with them but it mentally trips them up, especially when the optician talks about "mum" when I am at appointments with them, but it isn't a huge deal.

Whenever I go somewhere new I seem to find yet another thing where I have to out myself and it gets annoying. Every time I think I am done something else pops up and I have to explain that I transitioned and send my deed poll and passport as ID proof, only now instead of being scared I just get irritated at the bureaucracy of it all..

Life will always be a mixed bag, but living as me is so much better than living in fear. I used to dream about living full time as my real self, but seeing it from the other side I wish I had the courage to transition earlier. The stress is worth it, I have gained a level of peace I didn't realise I had never fully known.

I am more confident in who I am. I know the people around me know and like me for who I am and not just what I can give them. I still have moments where I get down because I moved to an area where I did not know anyone, but it was worth it.

When I am out and about no one cares, I have the same constant danger radar as every woman around me, but so far the worst thing I have experienced is some teens yelling out of a passing car - which also happened before I came out because, teens... I have also had complete strangers come up to me and compliment me on my hair, or traded compliments with someone about what we are wearing.

This is me, it has always been me. It just took me a while to get comfortable with who I am.

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I've come to the realization of who I am and that I can't do anything about it!
Part 6. What if...

Latest entry by Moe, January 25, 20233 yr

What exactly am I looking for if, God forbid, I'm single again. Being 79 years old, my time is precious on this earth, but that does not mean I can't experience what I've wanted my whole life.

Being a man has ment that I fought the battles, lead the charge, protected the family, was the bread winner and all of that. I would love a women that is 100% vested in our relationship and my transformation. A women that takes the lead in all aspects from day to day, to sex, to my transformation.
We need to have a 50/50 relationship except her 50% is worth more than mine..lol.

Throw out my mens underwear and replace it with women's bras, panties, etc.. Replace.my clothes with more feminine attire. Teach me how to use makeup. Teach me how to be a women. In return she will have my love, affection and respect. She will feel safe. She will be nurtured. We will sleep next to each other feeling the warmth of our bodies and smelling the essence of each other. Hold hands, kiss, caress... two women in love!

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Coming to the realization of who I am and that there is nothing I can do about it!
Part 3 Being a Man

Latest entry by Moe, January 22, 20233 yr

Growing up as a male, you are expected to do male things such as the clothes you wear, your friends, your occupation, military service, drinking beer, hunting, fishing etc.

It's not the activities for the most part, but the pressure to do them to conform.

Why can't I wear women's underwear. Why can't I cry. Why can't I be accepted for who I am.

Many years I went deer hunting, and underneath the blaze orange outerwear I wore a nice bra and panty set while in the deer blind. Talk about the perfect example what we should be able to do without the pressure of "being a man".

Reminds me of the Lumberjack Song!

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Jessica

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Starting my life!
Just a thought?

Latest entry by Jessicatoyou, September 27, 20223 yr

Isn't it funny but sad at the same time, that most of my life was lived in fear of anyone knowing my secret. Now, that my secret is out; I sense that some people are very afraid of me? If only everyone opened their eyes. I dream of that the day when no one will be afraid of each other.

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Emily

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Daily / weekly blog on early stages of Transgender exploration
Non-binary option

Latest entry by Emilyruns, September 21, 20214 yr

Just an update on how things are going, it's been so long since I've been online here! I've been working through that book by Dara Hofmann-Fox, and it's been super helpful. It's gotten me to start exploring non-binary options, which may be a good place for me to be on the gender spectrum. I've been going out dressed as me a bit. Went to a coffee shop for the first time ever to meet up with a trans friend, and we both brought our spouses. It felt so good to be myself in public! But pretty nerve wrecking. It was wonderful to finally meet another trans person in real life. We had a good time chatting about our own issues and everything else. A few weeks later we went out to dinner in the same style. Funny thing is that both times I did not feel like wearing my breast forms, so I went without. To me that's an indication that maybe I'm not on the far female side of the spectrum. In the mean time though, I have nothing male left in my wardrobe, all my clothes were purchased in the women's section, but still it allows for a look that's not super feminine. I'm liking it, somewhere in the middle.

Right now I have some house guests for a few weeks, with their kids. And although they are super supportive, I still have less chance of expression like I usually do. It's forcing me to take a break though, which is not bad in itself because now I'm taking a step back and I can do a little observation and reflection. It's taken me to the point to try and stop taking estrogen, but stay on the testosterone blocker. My doc was supportive of this, as I'm exploring non-binary stuff. I'm only two weeks in, and I can't say that I feel any different. Unfortunately just after I stopped taking the pills I got rather sick (not-covid, just a stomach bug), so I still don't know if there were any changes in my mood in the beginning.

I really wonder how this will develop in the future. My journey started in 2019, and I was on the female side of the spectrum for a good year and a half, before things started to change somewhat and I started shifting more to the middle. Wonder where I'll be a year from now. The journey continues.

Otherwise there's nothing really new. The new house is still keeping us busy every minute, and if it doesn't then the kids keep us occupied.

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Karen's thoughts

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This blog is dedicated to telling those who read the entries about my journey in hopes that something can be learned.
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Latest entry by KarenPayne, August 31, 20215 yr

About six months ago my job changed from writing enterprise web applications to now teaching seasoned developers to transition to another ecosystem. While doing this I was asked by a magazine (well a friend recommended me) to do a write up on something that is well worth knowing yet not many have written about.

Can't point to the article as its for subscribers only.

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Transgender Day of Rememberance TODAY!
Transgender Day of Rememberance TODAY!

Please take the time to remember and say a prayer for the transgender Victims lost to violence, hatred, and bigotry. The are all people just like you and me and perished at the hands of someone who didn't like who they were. There are vigils and events in cities and towns all over the world; please try to attend one whether you're trans, an ally, or just a flat out human being. I participated in one last Sunday in church and I'm going to one tonight, the first in my home town. 💜🌈👭😪 This Wednesday, think of the lives lost to hate and violence in just one year:
Dana Martin, 31,
Jazzaline Ware, 34,
Claire Legato, 21,
Muhlaysia Booker, 23,
Michelle 'Tamika' Washington, 40,
Paris Cameron, 20,
Chynal Lindsey, 26,
Chanel Scurlock, 23,
Zoe Spears, 23,
Brooklyn Lindsey, 32,
Denali Berries Stuckey, 29,
Tracy Single, 22,
Bubba Walker, 55,
Kiki Fantroy, 21,
Jordan Cofer, 22,
Pebbles LaDime “Dime” Doe, 24,
Bailey Reeves, 17,
Bee Love Slater, 23,
Jamagio Jamar Berryman, 30,
Itali Marlowe, 29,
Brianna “BB” Hill, 30,
Johana 'Joa' Medina, 25,
Layleen Polanco 27

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