I Want to be a Girl

Q&A

Q. I am a 15 year old boy who wants to be a girl, what should I do? What should I do? This isn't normal. posted Nov. 1, 1999

Response by Krystle Glass

A. First of all I have to tell you that you are far from being alone with this. Millions of people have faced what you are now feeling. Now the fact that you are a minor limits what your options currently are. To deal with this, you will need the help of adults. Hopefully your relationship with your parents is such that you can talk to tell, and that they will listen. It will be traumatic for them hear, as at the least they will fear what you will face down the line. But if they truly love you, they will help you find the professional help you are going to need. If you can't talk to your parents, is there another adult that you feel you can talk to? Someone who can act as a go-between with you and your parents? Because your parents will need to know. What you face requires therapy just for starters. Not because it's wrong, or evil, or sick. But because you need guidance to find just exactly how deep you female self goes. At 15 you are at a very difficult time for any teen. With the additional factor of being transgendered, you will have to deal with even more confusion and issues. A therapist can also help you and your parent's work with your doctor to determine the best course of medical treatments, if any, that you will need once your true path is determined. Now unfortunately all too often parent's either cannot or will not face their child's need. Or they outright reject their child. That will be heartbreaking to say the least. But it needn't be the end of the world. What it will mean is that you will have to wait a few years, until adulthood, to begin pursuit of your true destiny. But you CAN find happiness and a resolution to your feelings.