Non-Operative Transsexual
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Q&A
Q. I'm a Transsexual and I've been living full time for three years now, I'm lesbian identified and have had a few relationships since I transitioned. Lately though I've been questioning the my nature, and have truly started thinking about not completing the process, deliberately not going through with surgery, also staying on smaller doses of hormones to maintain my functionally. I am still fully functional at this time. I'm wondering how my psychologist may react to this decision, and also how a choice like this may affect me in my chosen sexuality? I have truly been afraid that I may be dooming myself to be alone by making this choice. posted Nov. 1, 1999
Response by Krystle Glass
A. How you psychologist reacts I can't predict. But your feelings are not uncommon. Non-operative transsexuals are all through the community. For many reasons. What matters more than your psychologist's reaction, is doing what is right and best for you. Unless and until you are CERTAIN you wish to go through with SRS, doing so would be a mistake. Are you dooming yourself to being alone? I really don't know. I don't believe that having SRS or not will determine if you will be alone or not. There are too many factors involved in why someone spends a life alone. Fear being one of the greatest. Fear of rejection, fear of being used, fear of being hurt, fear of ridicule, fear of intimacy, fear of commitment. If you are a person who is happy with themselves, confident and content with your own life, open to life's possibilities and who enjoys others; then the odds are that you will not be alone. That is true no matter what gender you are.